Mr Grey will see you now....

So before I start I want to say I have not yet seen the film I have however read all the books, so can only comment to a certain degree.

There has been a lot of controversy surrounding 50 Shades of Grey since the books release and it seems to have become even more to the forefront of the news etc with the release of the film.

Now when I read the books it was the first time I had ever read something classed as "erotic fiction" although I found the writing to be incredibly tedious I can't deny that I enjoyed them and did get a certain "thrill" from reading something of that nature.

The controversy surrounding the book seems to come from whether the BDSM relationship between Christian and Anastasia is consensual.  The first rule of a BDSM relationship of any kind is that it must be consensual and based on trust.  There are many passages where it seems this is the case however I do feel the lines have become slightly blurred within the way the relationship is portrayed, Anastasia seems to be uncomfortable and Christian continues, this may be the way it's written and that actually it is some kind of role play.  However, if this was a true Dom/sub relationship the Dom would be breaking the trust by continuing.

By writing this post I am not professing to be an expert I do however enjoy certain aspects of BDSM as I think most people nowadays seem to admit to, I am by no means "vanilla".  A lot of people in the community think 50 shades has shone a positive light on the lifestyle as people are more accepting, more willing to talk about it and in general bought it into the mainstreams conscious.  However some people feel the exact opposite, that now every Tom, Dick and Harry thinks they are kinky.

From my point of view anything that makes sex less of a taboo can only be a positive thing, sex is something that needs to be talked about, the more we hide it the more it becomes something that people are ashamed of and that should never be the case! One of the lowest rates of teen pregnancy is in the Netherlands where sex is in the public eye all the time, surely this shows that we as a nation need to change our opinions and outlook on sex in general!

What are your opinions? 

Lauren xx